whos getting married in the morning?

i had a rather interesting discussion about marriage the other night which got me thinking about or when you decide its the time. we started talking about the event in general, the actual wedding day and what we perceive as ideal. many people see the day as an excuses to spend much money on lavish venues, dresses and food and as many people look at planning their wedding off the backs off these self obsessed celebrities i cant help but think that the actual purpose of the day has been lost.
with divorce at a high and most marriages failing within the first couple of years this special, expensive day seems like a waste of time and money.
i long thought to myself that marriage would not be for me (still only in my 20's) as i saw my parents marriage fail at a young age it reflected bad on my young mind however as i become more settled and older my feelings towards this are starting to changed.
what i do still feel is that although marriage is no longer no no, we have to make a choice about how it is we go about it. i will point out at this point that i have not popped the question and im far from getting down on one knee. those who have read previous posts will understand that i have a family which you could say is similar to that of a modern british family, rifts, divorces and embarrassing relatives it comes with all the trimmings. do we have to plan a day that is for the people in our family or should this day be about the two people getting married. an idea that we talked about is to elope, leave all the planning and family behind and go away. it sure feels like the best way to do it but (although not yet) i will have to take that plunge and tell the family.
whats more scary getting married or telling your mother she wont need a hat.

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